Couples Counselling

When you make a commitment to a relationship you do so hoping that it will be forever.

But the reality is that people change and so do relationships.

Some of the most common difficulties that couples present with are:

communication difficulties which can be exhausting and confusing

rows that often involve power struggles and high emotion

affairs which can be devastating and hurtful and full of guilt

domestic abuse which can involve trauma and have a long-term impact on future relationships

separation and divorce, if, how and when to do the 'uncoupling'

sexual relationship and loss of intimacy

life stages and transitions such as a new baby and empty nest syndrome

Communication Difficulties

The basis of any relationship is good communication. The ability to share your thoughts, feelings and experiences are very important. You also need good communication to resolve issues when things go wrong.

Often couples arrive at counselling 'just not talking', or, if they do take a risk and talk it 'ends in a row'. When this happens I will help you to listen to each other, express your needs, manage conflict and emotionally connect.


Finding out about an affair can be devastating and talking about it is often difficult. Reasons for the affair can be complex and are unique to each couple.

I help couples to express and acknowledge painful emotions and to address issues of trust. I also help to unravel the reasons for the affair making sense of why it happened. Where possible, I help to rebuild the relationship, restore the trust and so aid recovery.

Separation and Divorce Counselling

Couples often arrive at counselling undecided as to whether they wish to stay or leave a relationship. I can help you make an informed choice.

I can also help you make sense of what happened which is vital in rebuilding your self- esteem and confidence. This will give new relationships the best chance.

Where there are children, one of the biggest worries is whether they will suffer. I will help you separate out your feelings and needs from those of your children enabling you to co-parent in the interests and well-being of your children.

Domestic Abuse

The term "domestic abuse" means different things to different people. It includes a wide range of behaviours that are intended to control the other person through abuse, threat or force.

The effects can be traumatising causing you to lose your self-respect and self-confidence.

I offer an assessment of your relationship and where counselling is appropriate help you to break the cycle of abuse and adopt respectful behaviours.

Sexual Relationship and Loss of Intimacy

Your sex life acts as a mirror to your life together: if things go wrong in other areas your sex life will usually suffer too. Your sexual relationship may be the cause of the problem or, a reflection of your intimate emotional relationship.

By looking at how you interact sexually, I can help you identify the area of sexual difficulty and help to restore a fun and enjoyable sexual relationship.


Rows can be about anything, or, the same row that keeps happening over and over. Couples may need to learn how to negotiate around their different beliefs and opinions. I can help couples express themselves by staying in control and having respect for difference.

Life Stages and Transitions

The birth of a first child and children leaving home can be two of the most life changing events that can happen to a couple. There is often mixed feelings from elation to exhaustion.

In moving from a couple to a family and back again, often the balance of the relation is affected and I can help the couple to tune back into and re-negotiate their relationship.

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